Extract from book Healing Society by Prof Ilchi Lee

Imagine a bowl of white rice and two hungry men. One man prefers eating the rice by digging in and spooning it to his mouth as quickly as possible, in a very haphazard way. Another man prefers using the spoon to gently scrape layer by layer off from the top until he reaches the bottom of the bowl, in a very meticulous fashion. Whose is the better way? I guess that depends on your personality. If you have a quick temper, you might prefer the former. If you are a controlling type, you might prefer the latter. It’s all the same. The rice reaches your mouth the same both ways. There is absolutely no difference except in style.

Now imagine that the two men above get into an argument over the different merits of their own peculiar eating habits. The first man thinks that it doesn’t matter how you eat the damn rice, since it’s all going to be eaten in a few minutes anyway. The second man stresses the need for a certain decorum even when doing things as commonplace as eating rice. The argument gets heated. The first man accuses the second of being controlling and arrogant while the second man counter accuses the first one of being sloppy and ignorant.